ACTION RESEARCH ON TEACHERS EMOTIONS : FIRST MISBELIEF ABOUT ACTIVATING EVENT

14.11.15

FIRST MISBELIEF ABOUT ACTIVATING EVENT

That is what I think when my pupils behaves in that way:
" When I am in a class I behave right, that is the way everyone has to behave. It´s unbeareble that adult people behave like this"

CONSECUENCES, feelings and behaves

About my pupil:
"She has for sure some phychological problems. She only wants to draw any atention, she goes too far all the time and she thinks that she knows everything, and my explanations don´t give her a miss"
About myself

"I´m fed up and really angry with this cheecky student,
I´m frustated

Under these feelings lie the following misbeliev according to Ellis:

"People should always do the right thing. When they behave obnoxiously, unfairly or selfishy , they must be blamed and punished"

What is the alternative belief?

Wanting people to behave in certain ways is not a problem. But believing that they 'should' or 'must' can be harmful to your well-being. Demandingness is the primary course of hostile, dysfunctional anger.

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Irrational beliefs according to Ellis:

Here are irrational beliefs that Ellis described:

1) The idea that it is a dire necessity for an adult human being to be loved or approved by virtually every significant other person in his community

2) The idea that one should be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects if one is to consider oneself worthwhile.

3) The idea that certain people are bad, wicked, or villainous and that they should be severely blamed and punished for their villainy.

4) The idea that it is awful and catastrophic when things are not the way one would very much like them to be.

5) The idea that human unhappiness is externally caused and that people have little or no ability to control their sorrows and disturbances.

6) The idea that if something is or may be dangerous or fearsome one should be terribly concerned about it and should keep dwelling on the possibility of its occurring.

7) The idea that it is easier to avoid than to face certain life difficulties and self-responsabilities.

8) The idea that one should be dependent on others and needs someone stronger than oneself on whom to rely.

9) The idea that one’s past history is an all-importan determiner of one’s present behaviour and that because something once strongly affected one’s life, it should indefinitely have a similar effect.

10) The idea that one should become quite upset over other people’s problems and disturbances.

11) The idea that there is invariably a right, precise, and perfect solution to human problems and that is catastrophic if this perfect solution is not found.

12)The idea that you can give people (including yourself) a global rating as human and that their general worth depends upon the goodness of their performances.

OBJECTIVES GUIDE

WEEK 1 (MARGA'S first case)

When making mistakes, accept that making mistakes it is a normal thing among human beings.
In the same way, understand that people could make mistakes without failing as a person. Change dogmatics preferences into wishes or rational preferences. "I would prefer or I would have prefered but......."
Instead of feeling ashamed when I lose my temper, learn from the experience and find alternative solutions. For instance, if a student demands something out of time, in a bad moment or improperly way, I can put off or turn aside the exigency by explaining to student it will left it for a better moment (and fulfill the promise or not....)
Accept that perfection is not possible, and understand that what I do and get does not define me as a person, and even less that has nothing to do with my value as a person.

WEEK 2 (Naia's first case)

To value my positive sides
Try to analyse the situation better and get clear evidences and proves
Get rid of filtering while thinking
Stop over-generalizing
Not to try to hard to be loved, instead, work on being respected
Think of mistakes as challenges

WEEK 3 (Marga's second case)

Distinguish what I can control, and what it is out of my control
Try to flow and enjoy the experience of being a teacher without expecting to change the mind of anybody.
Put the responsibility of everyone´s outcomes in each person´s efforts, without sending to myself "shoulds", "musts", or unrealistic impositions.
Bear other people´s tantrums without feeling blame. Turn down other people´s awfulizings and I-cant-stand-itis.
Accept that perfection is not possible, and understand that what I do and get does not define me as a person, and even less that has nothing to do with my value as a person. Beside of this, instead of breaking learn how to be flexible.

WEEK 4 (Naia's second case)

To difference every time i get hurt if is me telling myself or is someone else
To leave the past in the past and live the present
To build my confidence and believe more in myself
To be aware of our emotions when interpreting the reality
Try to be able to difference children's personal situations at work

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