ACTION RESEARCH ON TEACHERS EMOTIONS : Answering to "The first thing that we need to do in this specific case is to ask yourself these questions"

18.11.15

Answering to "The first thing that we need to do in this specific case is to ask yourself these questions"

1. Which are your proofs to say that you made that action in the wrong way?

I behaved in a wrong way, but I have to understand that I would rather have behaved better but I did what I was able at that moment, and I do not have to feel bad about this with myself.

2. Which actions do you based on to say that?

I would not like a teacher to answer me in that way, although I might be wrong.

3. What is the probability of having hurt that girl´s feelings with your attitude?

I have little rational belief about assertive behaviour; in fact, I have a lot of problems to put limits to people. I think also that I should always have positive, friendly and kind thoughts. The rational side of this thought is that I would rather have positive thoughts but sometimes it is really difficult to keep them.

4. What is the main problem that makes you think that you are the one who needs to change? Why do you feel like that?

I have another misbelief about up to which point I am responsible for my life and the things that happen to me. The rational side of this misbelief is that I am usually responsible for many things that happen to me but other times are out of my control and there is nothing I can do to avoid them.

5. What does it make you feel: controlled or uncontrolled?

It made me feel completely out of control.

6. How many of the things I feared that would happen in my life did actually happen?

Few things I feared that would happen in my life did happen, that is true. Nevertheless, one of my strongest fears is that something may happen unexpectedly.

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Irrational beliefs according to Ellis:

Here are irrational beliefs that Ellis described:

1) The idea that it is a dire necessity for an adult human being to be loved or approved by virtually every significant other person in his community

2) The idea that one should be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects if one is to consider oneself worthwhile.

3) The idea that certain people are bad, wicked, or villainous and that they should be severely blamed and punished for their villainy.

4) The idea that it is awful and catastrophic when things are not the way one would very much like them to be.

5) The idea that human unhappiness is externally caused and that people have little or no ability to control their sorrows and disturbances.

6) The idea that if something is or may be dangerous or fearsome one should be terribly concerned about it and should keep dwelling on the possibility of its occurring.

7) The idea that it is easier to avoid than to face certain life difficulties and self-responsabilities.

8) The idea that one should be dependent on others and needs someone stronger than oneself on whom to rely.

9) The idea that one’s past history is an all-importan determiner of one’s present behaviour and that because something once strongly affected one’s life, it should indefinitely have a similar effect.

10) The idea that one should become quite upset over other people’s problems and disturbances.

11) The idea that there is invariably a right, precise, and perfect solution to human problems and that is catastrophic if this perfect solution is not found.

12)The idea that you can give people (including yourself) a global rating as human and that their general worth depends upon the goodness of their performances.

OBJECTIVES GUIDE

WEEK 1 (MARGA'S first case)

When making mistakes, accept that making mistakes it is a normal thing among human beings.
In the same way, understand that people could make mistakes without failing as a person. Change dogmatics preferences into wishes or rational preferences. "I would prefer or I would have prefered but......."
Instead of feeling ashamed when I lose my temper, learn from the experience and find alternative solutions. For instance, if a student demands something out of time, in a bad moment or improperly way, I can put off or turn aside the exigency by explaining to student it will left it for a better moment (and fulfill the promise or not....)
Accept that perfection is not possible, and understand that what I do and get does not define me as a person, and even less that has nothing to do with my value as a person.

WEEK 2 (Naia's first case)

To value my positive sides
Try to analyse the situation better and get clear evidences and proves
Get rid of filtering while thinking
Stop over-generalizing
Not to try to hard to be loved, instead, work on being respected
Think of mistakes as challenges

WEEK 3 (Marga's second case)

Distinguish what I can control, and what it is out of my control
Try to flow and enjoy the experience of being a teacher without expecting to change the mind of anybody.
Put the responsibility of everyone´s outcomes in each person´s efforts, without sending to myself "shoulds", "musts", or unrealistic impositions.
Bear other people´s tantrums without feeling blame. Turn down other people´s awfulizings and I-cant-stand-itis.
Accept that perfection is not possible, and understand that what I do and get does not define me as a person, and even less that has nothing to do with my value as a person. Beside of this, instead of breaking learn how to be flexible.

WEEK 4 (Naia's second case)

To difference every time i get hurt if is me telling myself or is someone else
To leave the past in the past and live the present
To build my confidence and believe more in myself
To be aware of our emotions when interpreting the reality
Try to be able to difference children's personal situations at work

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