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Negatives and appropriate and inappropriate emotions according to REBT



Worry vs anxiety

Worry is an emotion related to the belief “ I hope that  this will not happen, and it will be  bad luck if happens “. Whereas, anxiety appears when the person believes that “ this might  happen and if so,  it would be horrible”.

Sadness vs depression

It is thought that sadness appears when a person believes that “ I have been unlucky because of having suffered this loss, but there is no  reason for why this should not have happened ”. However, depression is related to this belief: “ I should not have suffered this loss, and it is terrible that it has been happened the way it was”.

Pain vs culpability
Pain feelings appear when a person recognises that he or she has done something bad in public or privately, but he or she accepts him and herself as a human who can make mistakes. Person feels bad because of commited act but not because of him or herself while the individual thinks: “ I would rather I did not  things bad, but if it happens “bad luck”. A person feels guilty when people jugde themselves as bad, wicked, rotten or malign. In this case, people feel bad either because of their acts or because of themselves, as they think: “ I must not do things bad, and if it happens I am horrible and wicked”.

Disappointment vs shame/ embarrassment
A person feels disappointed when behaves “in a stupid way” in public, and although  it is recognised this act as a stupid, people accept themselves. However, a person feels ashamed when she or he can see that behavior has been “stupid” and person put the blame on her or himself for doing something it has not been done. On feeling shame or embarrassment person usually foresees that audience will judge him or she negatively, and in this case it is common to agree with these prejudgments.

Annoyance vs anger /rage

Annoyance is felt when a person does not take into account a rule of life of an individual. Although  one  does not like the fact that other person did, he or she is not  condemned by others. “ I do not like what this person did, and I would rather it had happened, but this does not mean that he or she can break my rules”. However, in the case of the anger the person thinks that the other person canot break at all his or her rules and because of that, he or she is damned. 


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