Learning how to not fight with other people. 5 irrational belief

An essential part of the human strength are relationships. Learning how to deal with others' shortcomings make easier relationships and for that, we had better learn how to do that,  instead of dwelling on being hypersensitive and childish.

We are too sensitive towards others'  neuroticism, but,  people who are really happy and strong,  never fight with others. They do not waste their time or their energy by fighting with others. They live focusing on their life projects, so , they do not become bothered if other people are cursing or making inappropriate comments about them. However, when we are neurotic, get hung up, and paranoid ,  we  act protecting ourselves from those who could us cause offend. Many times, as a result of this situation we end up isolating from others, and  thinking that  people are a hell. Losing such over-sensitiveness is crucial .

You can offend me.

Rafael Santandreu suggests  his patients think  about  the  “situation of disrespectful beggar”.  Let us imagine that we are walking on the street and all of a sudden from the opposite sidewalk a drunk beggar starts insulting us. What will we do? Surely, we would think he is a poor man who needs medical help and would not become hurt by him. In the case of other people,  the way is the same:  whoever offend could  come from, insults  do not have to shake us, because any mistreat comes from insanity and must be understood as a signal of madness.  Offends, verbal mistreats, respect… are issues  frequently misunderstood, even among psychologists. How many times an insult spoilt us the day? Avoiding this is essential.

Mental strategies for that are:

·        To understand other people´s insanity

·        To build a strong self-esteem

·        To create fluent and easy ways of communication so that we can influence other people

·        And sometimes, reasonably learn  to  drift apart from the insane .